Accept Other's Viewpoint if it is Acceptable

Ayesha (may Allah be pleased with her) our Prophet (saw) says that, “Tenderness adorns everything and if removed would make it ugly."

[Sahih Muslim]

Explanation: Tenderness towards others is very pleasing to Allah and is very meritorious. Ayesha (ra) relates that our holy Prophet (saw) has said, 'Allah is kind and likes kindness and gives that reward for tenderness which is nor granted for harshness nor for anything else.” (Sahih Muslim)

Tenderness means that one must avoid using harsh words or harsh attitude in anger, and behave and speak with tenderness. If someone has to be checked or if a difference in opinion is to expressed, one should not be rough or harsh, but speak softly and kindly. If a younger person has to be trained and strictness cannot be avoided, it too should be adopted in moderation or to the extent needed.

Kind behaviour also implies that one must not argue or quarrel with others on every issue and think well of them as far as possible. Even haggling over price should not be harsh or acrimonious. One should be ready to accept an other's viewpoint if it is acceptable. and when if it is not so one should withdraw from argument. It is not good to compel others to agree with one's own viewpoint and to force them into submission.

Another hadith of the Prophet (saw) gives the same message of tenderness in this way . Jabir (ra) has related that our blessed Prophet (saw) said that, “Allah is kind to him who is tender and forgiving in selling as well as buying and even when asking others for his due". (Sahih Bukhari).

Thus, tenderness towards others is very pleasing to Allah and is highly meritorious.