The Exemplary Husband

Messenger of Allah(saws) said "Verily you have rights over your women and they have rights over you."

[Tirmidhi]

Explanation: The exemplary husband is he who cooperates with his wife by bearing good relations and showing kind manners to her. It is appropriate for a man to not restrict himself from serving himself. This is since the wife takes care of the household affairs. So therefore, it is from good manners that the husband extends a helping hand to his wife in the house, during times of necessity, such as when she is sick, pregnant, has given birth or similar to that. From the kind and noble manners of the husband is that he complies and assents to the requests of his wife, so long as they are not forbidden in Islam.

There is no human being that is perfect. So there is no doubt that the husband will see things in his wife that do not comply with his natural disposition and preferences. If these aspects are not in opposition to the fundaments of Islam or to the obedience of the husband and his rights, then at that point, he should not try to change her personality. He should also remember that if there are some characteristics that he doesn't find pleasing in his wife, then indeed she has other characteristics, which are definitely pleasing to him.

If you are able, do not hold back from providing your wife with good clothing and food, and from being generous in spending money on her. This is of course according to the extent of your ability. Beware of scolding your wife or blaming her for a mistake she committed, in the presence of others, even if they are your own children. It is not proper for you to ask your wife to look for work outside of the house or to spend upon you from her wealth.